Sorry for being MIA this past week. Jake and I got into an argument and it was a rather bad one, as happens with couples. Personally, I think that what the argument was about isn't always the important part, but the reflection afterward is much more important.
Everyone has their flaws and things they need to work on about themselves, but sometimes we need help to work on them. As for myself, I have a bit of a temper (having to do with a lack of patience) and am sometimes jealous (which I extremely dislike about myself but am not able to shake it). It stems from my first "real" boyfriend cheating on me and being a giant loser. I was only slightly jealous before that happened but ever since then, even if I truly trust my partner, I detest when another girl tries to flirt with him. I think it is disgusting for women to do that to each other. We won't even get into what I think of people who cheat on their significant other. I guess it's just human nature though for it always seems to be happening.
Jake and I love each other and I trust him but it still annoys me that this girl texts him all of the time. She isn't a threat and it's kind of flattering that someone has a little crush on my boyfriend, but it still bugs the crap out of me when she texts him. She is the sister of one of Jake's friends. He can't make her stop texting, I can't make her stop texting, since it's going to continue to happen I need to devise a way to not want to punch her in the face every time she texts. Not that I have or would ever get into a physical fight, it's not very ladylike.
I have invited this girl to hang out at our house instead of her trying to lure Jake out of our house to hang out with a "group". She won't come around because she says she, "is afraid of me." This indicates to me that she knows her behavior is inappropriate as she has no reason to be afraid of me. I've never officially met her, been mean to her, or anyone else that she knows, or anything of the kind. Since I can't seem to affect her behavior, I just need to change my response to it.
So, my questions for you are, if you have some of the same struggles that I do, what methods do you use to not become so annoyed when a girl has a little crush on your man, and how do you keep yourself calm when your patience has been exhausted?
Thanks in advance for your tips and tricks because trying to ignore her doesn't work particularly well.
P.S. The argument wasn't about this girl, but this issue came to light when thinking about why I get so angry sometimes.